For a week I was the sole caregiver for two three year olds, one nine month old and one dementia patient all at the same time. While the kids kept me on my toes all night between bottles and potty trips, my days were all about the challenges of the dementia patient.
Many good memories were made for the kids but I am unsure what, if anything, mom will remember. We had outside toys IN the house due to bad weather. The kids tried new foods. They had special privileges that they do not usually have, like watching a movie on my phone in bed. They seemed to enjoy their visit. Mom stayed exhausted. She had no naps and constant stimulation. She did go to bed at seven each night, when we went upstairs for bath and bed.
Shortly after their mom and dad left with the kids, my mom went to bed and slept until supper. I did a light supper for her in bed and she went right back to sleep. We both stayed in pajamas and napped for the next two days. I am not sure you can ever “catch up” on lost sleep. We remain exhausted.
It is hard to stop being a mom. I find I am now mom to my mom. She usually is good natured about it but there are times she rises up and digs in. Our biggest “battle” is over water. She claims she drinks too much but her nephrologist says she doesn’t drink enough. The battle wages on and a truce will only be called when we are with the grandbabies again.
LESSON: Do not let challenges of being a caregiver keep you from loved ones and having fun. A few minutes of distraction will do your soul good.